Fragile

[Emelia8]

Hi @Appleblossom 😄

Just like @Former-Member , I too have noted that youve been quiet for a while. But I recall hearing you say recently that you likely wont be on here as much any more. Just want you to know that many of us here still think of you, with much affection and admiration. Catch you next time you're on. 😄💖

Dear @Former-Member ... I understand loss and I understand chronic pain. I feel for you on both counts. Next week will be a tough one for you, with your darling lost girl's would-have-been 23rd birthday. I still get thrown off kilter at each of my little nieces birthdays. She should have turned 16yo this year, had it not been for the accident 5 years ago.

Its understandably harder when it comes to the loss of children. Perhaps because they never had a chance to reach all those important milestones ... teenager, finishing school, starting work, 18th, 21st, getting married, having children, etc. Very very hard. And I'm only her aunt. You are a loving, and still grieving mum. My heart goes out to you.🌹

Sorry to hear about your fall, but pleased to hear of the care and assistance you received. 😄

Emelia 🌷

[Former-Member]

Hi @Emelia8 thanks for quick reply, and I know you understand too. Just don't want to add to your load. How's it all going? (will go check your thread soon)vYou seem chirpier, very quick oF the mark here. Way better than me at this :face_with_rolling_eyes:. Thought of you while they took biopsy of suspicious mile yesterday. and now the wait, so hard this cancer stuff. 💙

[Emelia8]

Thanks @Former-Member 😄🌷

I havent updated my thread in 4 days ... as pointed out by the lovely @NatureLover this morning. 😊  I will do so shortly. But in short, it has been really difficult. Pain levels only started to reduce in last couple of days. But I think I have turned the corner now. 

Also been dealing with loss of hubbys Dad on Monday. So hard not being there in WA to help with arrangements. 

And on top of hubbys grief, he reacted very badly to the war crimes findings against Aussie SAS in Afghanistan. So he has been on 'the warpath' the last few days. I have been maintaining a 'small target' existance where possible. 😔

Tag me anytime @Former-Member ... If Im around, I want to be here for you. You are one of my favourite people, and you give so much to so many. I would love to return the favour in some way, if possible.

Hope your biopsy comes back negative.  I had an infiltrating BCC removed from under my eye a couple of years ago. Yeah cancer is a curse. 😈

How is the adorable Georgia? 🐶

Emelia 💕

[Former-Member]

yeah,  neglecting my furbaby a bit lately @Emelia8 @, needs a good groom and bath and more walks, but still my shadow and gets lots of cuddles. Glad I wasn't walking her when I fell in the street yesterday 😲 (squish lol). Didn't think of your hubby's reaction to the soldiers in the media. Of cause he would feel it, in many ways. War sure does blur the boundaries when there's a licence to kiil some and not others I would think. And hard to spot the enemy half the time over there. Any wonder so many  soldiers come back messed up and often suicide. Yep, you need to duck for cover and hope it passes. Does he call those war vet helplines. I think he should and they've probably got something in place for this kinda reaction. A lot of people suicided when Royal Commission into Institutional CS Abuse hit the media. I know it really rattled me, surfaces  pain, Appleblossom  would know all about that 😞  Have  you heard from our AB🌺 lately? Hope she's ok 💙 Anyway. Best not hijack her thread. Gotta go take pain pill. Might stay in bed today. Probably won't make the drive to visit my son tomorrow 😢 after finally getting the green light (permission) to actually come. 4months I've had to wait. BarHumbug! He'll probably be cranky with me 😟

[Former-Member]

Hey @Former-Member 

Thank you for sharing your wonderful support  

With what has happened in Afghanistan, we want to remain mindful that this may be a highly distressing event for many, and everyone may have differing perspectives and feelings about it. 

In the interest of being trauma-informed, it would be best not to further unpack details of such a triggering event as this could be unsafe for the forums community.

However, we are certainly here to sit with those heavy feelings that may be arising

[Emelia8]

Hi @Former-Member ... Yes I understand that, and will refrain from discussing it further.  What I dont understand is why you have 'chipped' @Former-Member about discussing this issue. It was me who brought the subject up ... not EOR. If you want to reprimand someone, on this occasion, it should be me. Not EOR, who was merely responding to my post and being supportive of my situation.

Im sorry @Former-Member and @Former-Member 😢

Emelia 🌷

[Former-Member]

Hi @Emelia8 

Thank you for your post 

No one has any need to apologise here. It is absolutely ok for you to be talking about what feelings you are sitting with due to this news and I’m sorry to see it has had quite an impact on your husband and subsequently, yourself. @Former-Member also showed some lovely support here 

Just like with many traumatic events, we are conscious to guide the supportive conversation to be based around feelings as opposed to details.

Warmest regards,

Basil.  

[Zoe7]

@Appleblossom We have had a long history here and it has always been such a pleasure to converse with you. I hope you are doing okay and there is light in your future 

[Former-Member]

Wow! @Emelia8 where did that fight come from. Ya don't have to worry about me, I didn't understand it anyway, and handle being unnecessarily 'chipped' much easier these days, I have a strategy thars working, not so triggered anymore (took couple years though :face_with_rolling_eyes:). Time to wind down for the night now. Hope you sleep well 💙💙💙

[Maggie]

Thinking of you @Appleblossom ❣️❣️❣️