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We all live and learn @Abner
I had a good discussion about clarifying things in conversation today. Just the little back and forth that is often needed.
How are you going? You mentioned being on DSP and doing a little teaching. That’s what I have done, but no students this term as I have growing music commitments and a lot on personally. Just important to keep earnings in line with Centrelink requirements.
A long time ago I used to write submissions referring cases to prosecution for fraud. Just my weird very diverse personal work experience. While living in a very LGBTIQ plus suburb. We grew up very disadvantaged but I am trying to milk all my experiences for the best outcome. In that way I have lived a rich life.
@Till23 I never used to be able to get people to laugh, but I have been consciously working on it for last 10 years and that, at least is paying off. As in spontaneous, in the moment timing etc, and not planning it.
I get my support worker to laugh a lot. I have a 3 hour shift per week. It has helped anchor me, although for a couple years I was accepting being bullied by support staff. Learning to stand up for myself. I was brought up to do self sacrifice to a dangerous degree. Anyway this lady I have had for 18 months and she is worth her weight in gold. I was rolled over from NEAMI client list to NDIS just before COVID. I didn’t actually apply. I was on DSP for neck condition and psychosocial as secondary. My son was offered NDIS but has been mucked around so much he stopped trying to use it, and has been zero dollars for years. Because staff couldn’t do their job and help my son, nowadays they have to put up with me. I am no stranger to bureaucracy. I don’t particularly like it, which is why I studied Sacred Music and started teaching piano, but I got oodles of promotions in 3 government departments.
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I used humour for decades as a defence mechanism @Appleblossom to stop people from asking too many questions when I was still keeping the CSA secret. Also because I wanted to be able to get along with people and didn't want to seem like a weird person I felt I was
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@Till23 @It does help to reflect on our personality. See our various inclinations in perspective and find some balance. I guess that is one of the good things about getting older.
yep the sad clown is not unusual.
coping mechanisms and defences have their purpose. It got us through. My support worker also cried today. She knows my son pretty well and is both sad and angry about our current situation.
The other family of my grandson have written the most ridiculous stuff about me, and denied my work and education and voluntary contributions to society, but have shamed me greatly around religion and disability and gradually gaslighted us. All the while the mother was carrying on like a pork chop and we were being kind and supportive. They have no idea about reciprocity. At least I have taken my rose coloured glasses off now and can see them.
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