A long rave

[Bunniekins]

@eth Thanks eth. I always admire you though the way you get out and about and do so many things eg: your travel. You are quite the adventurer. Can you tell me what Shebah is? I have never heard of it before.

[eth]

@Bunniekins  Shebah is an alternative to Uber, with only female drivers for only female passengers and children.  It would be fantastic if only their app worked the way it's meant to.  Luckily I have the phone numbers of a couple of their drivers.  I've tried repeatedly to book in advance on my phone app but with no success.  So even tho' it's fabulous if I can get out by myself, there's a lot of anxiety involved, which is why it's been so long since I used them.

[Bunniekins]

@eth What a great idea as you say if it works. I only have cabs here. I rather enjoy taking a cab as I find the drivers on the whole very interesting.to talk with. Some of the stories I have heard would curl you hair :D. Have to go out with son2 to his psychiatrist soon. Have a good day eth. Love gp xxxx

[Appleblossom]

@eth Very glad to read that long post about your therapy.

Very glad that she is actually applying approaches and offering strategies in the therapy room, apart from being a "nice person and listening", which is often not enough.

Over my life I have never really been able to afford the appropriate level of therapy so a lot of journey has been self researched, heard from word of mouth and applied my odd way, with very little help from a few sessions most years.

I will raise the idea of doing a "trauma map" next psych appointment. The visual of it will be good to balance the narrative side which we have already worked on.  I have pdoc today but doubt it is appropriate for him.  If they are not interested I will try it by myself.  Recently with seeing the lawyer I started tracing and connecting circumstance, cause and consequence with all the sexual abuses and complications that occurred in my childhood and early teens.  Then to work on other aspects like abandonments and poverty.

@Adge  @Bunniekins @Mazarita

@Zoe7  In the band camp during the day, we were so focussed on NOT falling prey to "witchy bitchy" stereotypes, but in the opera we were told to act it out for dramatic effect.  I told the young madam, that womyn were moving on from being witchy and bitchy to each other and that you never know what others are "carrying".

[Zoe7]

Good on you for standing up for yourself and others in that respect @Appleblossom You don't need to be fuelling those type of stereotypes as was suggested in the opera group - it is not necessary at all - so well done on stating your point of view 

[Adge]

Hi @eth Thanks for your experiences, I can very much relate.

No I have not ruled out EMDR - I very much wanted to do it. It's my psychologist, who so far wouldn't do it with me.

In the meantime, I've had hypnotherapy (hypnosis) sessions over the past few years - which I found very helpful.

Some experts say that hypnosis is more effective than EMDR, it depends on the opinion (& person).

You are so right about fearing things happening again that we have actually already experienced (have already happened).

It's not a case of fearing what might happen, I've already been through that.

Yes, things were very much compounded by the way people treated me during crisis - during most of December last year.

Things had never escallated to that extent - I couldn't distance myself from their reactions (& behaviour), because my brother was staying with me in my house (& refused to give me space, or leave).

I can relate to that.

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[Adge]

I'm glad you have positive experiences with DBT @Zoe7

That may motivate me to pursue it further.

I am on the waiting list for a short 5 week DBT group.

Adge

[Zoe7]

5 weeks is a very short time-frame for DBT @Adge How many days/hours does that entail? I hope you get into the course quickly though - and even more so I hope you get something out of it. It certainly has helped me a lot since I started it.

[Zoe7]

School for us goes back next week @eth so while there is still time it is getting way too late to get things organised. I can see that I will be spending days off and weekends for a while getting things organised. I rang HR this morning and still no word - they are waiting to hear back from Principals regarding my placement and until that happens it can not progress any further. I have been assured that it will be done by the time school begins next week but it is all going to be a rush and that really is not what I ideally need - but it is what it is and I am trying not to get too stressed about that which I cannot change!

[Adge]

@Zoe7

Those 5 week DBT Group courses are just one aspect (component) of the full DBT program.

It's just a 2 hour group, once a week, for 5 weeks.

The topic is Managing Emotional Distress.

That's all that seems to be available, in terms of privately run groups.

The full DBT program is only available through Public MH services (here).

It's hard to access or gain entry to (rigorous assessment & referrals process) - that full DBT program (group & individual therapy) goes for a full year (12 months).

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