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10-12-2018 08:44 PM
10-12-2018 08:44 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
today word from Mr shaz " one step forward and two steps backwards
@Former-Member, @Former-Member, @Jacques, @Determined
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10-12-2018 09:43 PM
10-12-2018 09:43 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
So hard not to focus on the negatives and let our beloveds ups and downs become ours. Mr D struggling with the monotony of life too despite having a relatively full week with something to do each day.
I got a bit of cooking done today as well as planting out 4 tomato seedlings. Filed a few more bits of paper too.
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11-12-2018 06:36 PM
11-12-2018 06:36 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
How are things today @Shaz51?
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11-12-2018 06:53 PM
11-12-2018 06:53 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
Evening @Former-Member @Shaz51 + anyone else around.
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11-12-2018 07:11 PM
11-12-2018 07:11 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
Mr D struggling with the monotony of life too despite having a relatively full week with something to do each day. -- exactly the same here @Former-Member, @Determined
today we worked until 2pm today
checked on mum and did some things for her
I went and had my hair done , the hair dresser really wanted someone to talk to about her mum in hospital and she will not be going home
when I got home , I knew mr shaz was upset about something
all good now
@Janiee, @Former-Member, @Faith-and-Hope, @Adge, @Smc
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11-12-2018 07:35 PM
11-12-2018 07:35 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
Do you sometimes have to get the heavy duty digging equipment to get Mr Shaz to divulge what is worrying him @Shaz51?
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11-12-2018 07:42 PM
11-12-2018 07:42 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
yes sometimes @Former-Member, sure do
what does mr @Former-Member do ??
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11-12-2018 08:20 PM
11-12-2018 08:20 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
Mr D puts his hand to brow and won't say too much @Shaz51. Sometimes he goes to bed, depending on level of anxiety anguised sighs, leg slapping or crying can follow. If ask him what is troubling him, the standard response is that there is no point telling me as I can't do anything about it. He will usually tell me after the event what the problem was.
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11-12-2018 09:37 PM
11-12-2018 09:37 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
If ask him what is troubling him, @Former-Member, now mr shaz would say nothing and I leave him alone or sit with him and he will say something hours later
years ago I would get upset as mr shaz would blame everything else or blame me , and it would be hard to find out the real reason behind it all until days later and then I would cry thinking it was me
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11-12-2018 11:33 PM
11-12-2018 11:33 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
I don't think Mr D blamed me for things as such @Shaz51 although when hype he did telI me I was a killjoy. He tends to blame himself and has little self compassion. He cannot see past his losses post attempt.