The Challenges of Mental Health Wellbeing

[Shaz51]

Mr A is in my lap and Jasper is at the end of the bed.---- awwww @Sans911 

thinking of you lots my friend xx

[outlander]

Just checking in @Sans911 hope all is ok and you got a nice nurse today
❤

[Sans911]

I'm ok lil Sis @outlander. My mum has been out all day and only got back at dinner time. I like her being here but sometimes I feel invisible even when she is here because she talks so much about herself. So I feel quite lonely tonight even with her here.

The community nurse who came to do the dressings today was nice. She had a nursing student with her who I think was a bit gobsmacked at how many wounds I have and how much there was to do. I have 3 major wounds and 6 smaller minor ones (from drains and other lines). But she was a good student who listened and her mentor was relaxed and easy going with her. They will be back tommorow to redo one dressing only. Then the other dressings are every second day. At one point it looked like I might have had to return to hospital as I opened up my abdominal wound a little from trying to get out of bed. But once it was cleaned it wasn't as bad. I'm making sure I'm wearing my binder a little more to help prevent problems.

How has your day been? The forums seem a bit sad and quiet today.

[outlander]

It has been pretty quiet with regular members today and the past few days too. Hopefully they pop in soon @Sans911
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Im sorry you feel invisible and alone i do understand. Its so tough to feel alone even when in the company of others. Come sit with me sis, its nice and warm in my house and your welcome to stay as long as you like 💜

My goodness no wonder your uncomfortable and sore. It would be quite a shock to someone whose training but sounds like she done well. Having a nice and patient mentor can make quite the difference.
im glad you didnt have to go back to hospital! Wearing your binder and taking it easy sounds like a good idea.

Im unsettled. Waiting and sitting on my hands is becoming harder esp with october nearing so close and still needing to do more but having to wait till appts come and go and waiting on loan decisions and things happening at home. Its abit overwhelming.
I felt quite sick earlier. Have been abit like it on and off the past few days but was more noticeable today. Ive been having to work hard on keeping present since i keep dissociating. I think that stress and not sleeping much is playing a part in that. Im a little better tonight besides tired and sore teeth again.

I think @Faith-and-Hope is around tonight too ❤

[Sans911]

I hear you @outlander in regards to being overwhelmed but it might help to look at those another way. First, you can't control the decisions that are made by others. You can't make the appts come earlier or even control the results. All you can do is hope that things go in your favour. You can also use this waiting time to plan alternative options if things don't go as expected. How long is it since you used your Worry box? Is it time to try it again? What about the essential oils, tea, splashing your face with cold water when you start to feel overwhelmed? When coping strategies don't work after a while it doesn't hurt to try them again. I know that you heard and know all this stuff but I'm just gently reminding you again. Hugs and hugs ❤️ 💜 💙 💜

Hi and goodnight @Faith-and-Hope. Sounds like you need some sleep catch up.

[outlander]

Thank you for the gentle reminder @Sans911 💕💕
Time seems to go fast but also slow. Its just frustrating i guess. Just seems im not really getting anywhere even though i can see things getting done with the list i have written/ticking off as i go.

I havent really been using the worry box i found it wasnt as helpful so put it away for a short while just to try other things for now.
I really wish i had lavender oil. It was helpful both in the diffuser and topical as long as it wasnt a blend of some kind. I might get some tomorrow if i have some time.

Sorry i really shouldn't be putting this on you  though. You've  more then enough to manage yourself too

[Sans911]

Hun, we ALL have things going on with ourselves ALL the time. That doesn't go away. You never put things on me unless I accept it. If I wasn't able to be here for you I would be honest and tell you. Anyway, helping you with your problems or even just listening to you focuses my mind elsewhere. So it's more than OK. Most of the time being here in the forums in whatever capacity I'm in is helpful for me. Silent words carry much more than spoken at times.

[outlander]

Ok @Sans911 just as long as your ok being here. You are right, silent words can carry more then those that are spoken. I love being here with and for you. I very much appreciate you being here for me too 💕

[Sans911]

Evening lil Sis @outlander 💜 💜 💜 💜 💜 💜 💜 💜

[outlander]

Evening sis @Sans911 💜💜💜💜💜💜