I am- Overwhelmed & Traumatised I need your support!!

[Former-Member]

Thanx for the message & flowers they are just what I need.

 I'm hurting all over, no exaggerating. I just took strong pain meds. I am sick with a Virus, & sinus congestion from allergic reactions, plus stress & nite mares it sucks doesn't it hey!

@outlander

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[outlander]

it very much does suck @Former-Member dealing with quite abit of pain here tonight too.
are you allergic reactions seasonal? like pollen, dust etc or was it from something else?
you might need some vicks vapo rub or oil and put it in a diffuser to help with your sinus congestion

[Former-Member]

@outlander

I just used my vicks inhailer I forgot about it, thanx for reminding me. I have pollens & what ever is in the air allergies atm. I got a Virus from the continue nasal drip down the back of my throat it went infected & i was put on the Anti Biotics a few days ago. The bad headaches are calming down a bit. I got over stress from Eude & what he said about himsels. I saw a woman I know who did to herself what he ssaid he thinks about doing. I was traumatised & shocked & it took me over 12 months to recover from it all. So I went shocked when he was going off the other day.

[outlander]

yeah im highly allergic to pollen and dust and that includes pets too and their shedding so it could be that as well @Former-Member cause its spring its shedding season for the first few weeks.
im glad the headaches are settling down, with sinus infections they cause so much pain dont they.
talking to someone in distress esp when its graphic or really triggerring from the past it can really send things into a spin. just remember that its ok to take a step back when there are others helping as well

[Former-Member]

@outlander

I paniced a bit, & I was not going to come back to SF. I was worried about Sophia, & I came back for you & Sophia, & what I have been posting for her is helping her I love her & she does too much for others when she needs some happines in her life. I love you too & I don't want to leave you either. So if I go on Eude thread I will not get involed with all the trauma as it's unhealthy for me. I care but I have my Fur babies to think of & put first. I can talk to you because we relate & you don't stress me I love you!

[outlander]

we all most definently have our limits @Former-Member and thats more than ok. i am glad you have stayed, but also stay for support and love and care from us here for yourself too. you just as important as anyone else

[Former-Member]

@outlander

I'm still dealing with what happened with Darren, it shocked me Big time! it's very hard to talk about atm, but I think its for the best, I suppose? I am sorta grieving without crying now, I ma sorta trying to understand it, but it makes no sence to me atm.

[outlander]

what happened with D? @Former-Member more than happy to listen and help you come to terms with things...

[Former-Member]

@outlander

He told me that he is getting married to an older lady that he see's once a week she lives near Wollongong & she is his dance partner each week for Ballroom dancing up where she lives. He stays over nite with her goes dancing with her, then comes back here where I live next day & he does this weekly. They are getting married in October, & he will not live with her, just see her once a week for the dancing. In between they will live separate lives, & do their own thing without each other with their friends. In that time he wants to visit me, & do fun things with me, & he always hugs me for a long time & flirts with me. I told him no way. I told him I will not go any where with him & he should put his wife first in marriage & that it's not really a proper way to have a marriage.

[outlander]

aww @Former-Member im sorry to hear that. no i think your right, thats not a good way to start a marriage, i know it is hard, very hard but being with someone who wants to have a double life wouldnt sit well with me either.
Do you still think youll be able to maintain that friendship with him as i know hes a long time friend too or do you think its best to let it go..