@EternalFlower Your dad sounds like a "case" beyond description. Difficult for you.
Often people get into the drama of giving lots of stuff to kids, but they do not need that much, more they need guidance. It can be a big he man ... con job ... I am providing all this ... do what I want and all the keeping up with the Joneses etc ... the important things get lost in it all... and women can buy in ... and defend their man ... and have all sorts of negative interactions with other women. I am writing about my aunt married to the rich dude ... and how she behaved to my mother and I. She was always angry and defensive and cynical.
My father never drove a car but new about ships. He died young. I learned a lot from a friend at 17 who taught me to ride a motorbike and helped me fix them. Even still. I had one instant where an engine seized without oil and yep stopped and I fell off. Big drama got rid of it. Was getting paid heaps at the time including travelling allowance, so got another bike. Never really drove til I was in mid 20s. Felt like I was in a giant tin can.
All that stuff happens. Chalk it up to experience and dont overthink or worry about it. All we can do is our best. Today's world is very complicated. I wish it was a better place.
I have gone through a slump but going this arfternoon to a friends house for a meeting about "justice". I will try and be well behaved. They do not have mental health issues on their radar yet ... how to get people to care.
Hugs to you.
