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Hello @creative_writer

Just popping by to check-in; I am so glad to see you and @GezzaP supporting one another. ☺️

Firstly, good on for moving your body and re-applying for the job - I hope you get some good news!

Secondly, I am so sorry that they responded in this way, that must have been really vulnerable for you... your feelings are absolutely valid and your trauma deserves a safe space to be held. 

What do you need right now to feel more supported? 💛

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@GezzaP telephone appointment is a start. I’ve made an appointment, it’s telephone. Maybe I will make a face to face appointment the following week. I’ll let him know next week about the ED plan, so he is prepared for it when I do go in person.

I hope the need cat food helps.

@AuntGlow I ended up retraumatised and pathologised. What I got from the conversation was 1. I was stuck because I processed the events to be worse. 2. I should know what is overreacting and what isn’t. Like is there a social norm I’m missing here? 3. If it’s affecting every aspect of your life then there is a problem. So is that supposed to mean if you have ptsd you’re responding too much? I’ve had other conversations that didn’t hit me okay, like i should think about consequences of how suicide will affect others (when I was suicidal) and how you can’t have a healthy romantic relationship without intimacy being the core. I can’t exactly jump into a romantic relationship and be physical immediately with my history. I would need to learn to feel comfortable and safe to let someone that close.

I’ve just had something to eat. I’m going to do a head massage, music and prayers

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@creative_writer @AuntGlow My cat ate all  the new cat food so that’s great. Glad to hear you made phone appointment. I have to do that in a morning when I’m less tired.

 

Your therapist you had sounds like my sister who blames me for my mental illness and says having suicidal thoughts is selfish.

 

I’m getting tired. Have been sleeping heaps.

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@GezzaP it’s reassuring the cat ate all the food. Make the appointment when you feel ready.

It’s not really my role to regulate the therapist’s feelings. She didn’t say it was selfish, but she spoke about how suicide doesn’t change the lives of individuals in the person’s life, but also therapist’s.

Maybe an early night might help with the sleepiness?

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@creative_writer  I have gone to bed. Exchanging texts with a friend. I won’t go to sleep straight away. Had  a couple of smokes in the early evening then put them away so I can try not to smoke tomorrow morning. Oh right I misunderstood what your therapist had said.

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@GezzaP I hope texting your friend helped you feel less isolated.

It does still seem like the therapist thought suicide was selfish, she just didn’t say it directly. Sometimes other factors like upbringing and culture can influence other people’s beliefs.

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@creative_writer Yes texting helps a bit.

 
i know culture and upbringng can effect attitudes.

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@GezzaP talking to friends can help lift the mood. Are you able to tell to them about what been going on for you?

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@creative_writer Yes I told my friend what has been going on. 

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@GezzaP I hope you are doing better today 💖